Eyes Technique for Emotional
Intelligence
Do you ever get stuck in a mental rut? Is
there some state of mind that visits you occasionally and
you have a hard time getting out of it? It might be sadness,
melancholy, anxiety, depression, anger, or just plain
feeling upset. Not to worry, help is only a few glances away
- literally! Here is a simple way to get unstuck.
Easy Memory Techniques for
Remembering Names
The world memory champion can memorize
170 names and faces in 15 minutes. Yet many people cannot
recall a single name thirty seconds after hearing it. If we
stay conservative for a moment and assume that remembering
170 names is the best people will ever be able to do, it
should still be a piece of cake to remember one name of a
person who just introduced herself to you three minutes ago.
Right?
Social Status Wars
All human interactions are governed by
the continual adjustment of status. Status is the currency
of human communication. Most people are constantly and
unconsciously engaged in status wars and are highly skilled
at it. Such wars can be fought for either a higher status
(natural leaders) or for a lower status (victims).
Social Status Techniques
Status signals developed millions of
years ago as a way of communicating the pecking order
without getting into a fight. You can observe them easily in
any pack mammal. The signals are tied directly to showing
fear or fearlessness. Status is basically territorial, so a
one sentence answer to increasing your status is to take
more space, and to lowering your status is to take less
space.
Useful Personal Boundaries
Where do you think you end? Inside your
head, at the outer edge of your skin or three feet outward
into the space around your body? Your sense of personal
boundaries subtly influences every interaction you have with
the world. If you live in a large city, you are likely to
have very slim personal boundaries, while if you were on a
farm, they would be quite wide.
Flattery for Self Development
Do you enjoy being flattered or do you
feel self conscious when someone applauds your talents, your
identity, your actions: "You are a wonderful speaker!" "You
are beautiful!" "You can make really good jokes!" There are
three ways to handle a compliment - acceptance, rejection,
redirection. Most people do not know how to accept a
compliment, instead they reject or redirect it.
The Language of Freedom
A man says to his wife after a fight:
"Let's figure out how we can salvage this relationship." A
president tells his employees: "Our new vision is to stick
to brutal facts and to weather the truth." A parent
instructs his son: "If you are as good as your brother, I
will love you just as much." Are you hearing the hidden
messages inside these lines?
The Nastiest Habit of All
A simple, almost trivial, yet immensely
powerful way to empower every relationship you have is to
change just one habit. The Habit of the First Meaning. What
is the first place that you look for the meaning to
understand what people do and say?
Hot Buttons Exposed
How many hot buttons do you have? By our latest
calculations, each one of us has over one million unmarked
hot buttons wired up into our bodies and minds. If you think
some people are good at pushing your hot buttons - guess
what? They know only a handful! Imagine what your life would
be like if they learned all of them. Or, how about if *you*
knew all of your own hot buttons.
Love Me Baby One More Time
The simplest way to maintain a wonderful relationship is
to create just a few positive anchors. And the easiest way
to screw up your relationship is to create just a few
negative relationship anchors. Most people, being unaware of
how anchoring works, habitually set negative anchors that
wreck their relationships.
Don't Shoot the Messenger
Today I continue the topic of creating
extraordinary relationships by examining something that
happens to all of us every day, yet something that only
rarely people are skilled at - communicating negative
emotions well.
First Key to Self Mastery:
Response-Ability
What is responsibility and why is it
important? Response-ability is very simply your ability to
respond to the world. Whenever you claim responsibility,
your claim your power to do, to influence, to act, to
change. Whenever you deny responsibility, you deny your
power to respond, leaving yourself powerless.
How to Give Valuable and Potent
Feedback
Surprisingly few of us know how to give
feedback in just the right way. Many conflicts begin simply
because feedback was given and taken inappropriately. Giving
feedback well is a simple six step technique you can master
in a few minutes and use to a great benefit any time. Learn
how it works, try it for a few days and you will see for
yourself the difference it makes in your relationships.
NLP Guide
Top of the line, hand made Guide to
Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Discover what NLP is,
what you can do with it, how other people are applying it,
the best ways to learn it, and much, much more!
Psychology of Space
Much more fascinating and surprising to
me was the discovery that the space around my body is
asymmetrical, and my left space is vastly different from my
right space. I started noticing which side I presented to
people and how they reacted. I noticed I had a strong
preference to stand sideways during the conversation, as if
we were pressing our backs against the two walls near the
corner, with the other person on my right.
Extraordinary Decision Making
Learn how extraordinary decision makers
practice and perfect their art.
Common and Deadly Decision
Traps
A guide to the most common and deadly
decision traps, and how to avoid them. Even if you are very
good at decision making, it's important to watch out for a
handful of places where most people consistently make
mistakes. I will point out two of them today, explain how to
sidestep each one and top it off with a simple way to turn
hesitation into decisiveness.
Gold Medal Decision Strategies
Do you have a gold medal decision
strategy that consistently covers all the basis and produces
no-regret decisions? As you read this article, explore and
understand your own decision making, and where to make small
changes that will make big differences in the quality of
your life.
